Sex and the City

[Posted on Craigslist]

Bemused but occasionally cranky pianist, 36, seeks similarly-minded other for longterm relationship “with benefits.” Does not enjoy discussing real estate or humidity. Allergic to nuts, the Tchaikovsky Trio, and unmarked retransition ritards. Serious candidates must be able to sit through the occasional slasher flick, mindless Hollywood thriller, or other piece of mass-produced drivel; must be subsequently able to endure endless pseudo-intellectual analysis of same. Gin drinkers preferred.


Hey, read your ad and was quite intrigued. Me: 5’7 and a half, sturdy, well-versed in music and related arts, something of a workaholic, but up for fun now and again, great lover of coffee, food, drink, and the pleasures of life… interested?


Well, you do sound interesting. But I’m finicky. What’s the catch?


Hmm, the catch: I suppose I should tell I have kids. And here’s something weird: I wear a wig.


Wow, a double whammy. Kids … are those the little noisy creatures one sees perched in the small vehicles that often block access to my beverages in Starbucks? [snark] I’m looking for someone of substance, for sure, and I’m really trying not to be superficial about appearances … but I have to confess the wig thing has me a bit “wigged” out. Can you send me a pic? Also, you never mentioned your age…


Sigh, I guess it’s time to come clean. Here’s my pic:

People say I’m “timeless” which I guess means they can’t really tell how old I am? … whatever. One good thing about being dead, the whole age thing kinda gets less pressing …

I realize this is a lot to take in; hope it doesn’t freak you out. I think I’m worth it, though. Am enclosing my d minor English Suite so you can get to know me a bit better.


Well, this is … interesting.

As a dead European composer, you understand you’re sort of an unusual relationship choice. I was really hoping to date someone more or less alive. Of course, I’ve *always* dated living people so this might just be the fresh start I need.


I’m so glad you decided to give it a shot. Why don’t I come by your place sometime in the afternoon tomorrow?


OMG that was some date. Did anyone ever tell you you give amazing retrograde inversion? And I’m still dreaming about your descending chromatic bassline.


Glad you had a good time. IMHO chromatic and diatonic are really the two great linear forces at work in music and I love to watch them bump and grind against each other. Anna Magdalena used to help me with that in between minuets, if you know what I mean.


[3 months later]
… my friends will tell you I’m something of a committmentphobe, but I think you’re someone really special, a “keeper.” There’s just more and more to you, the more I look, and I never get tired of thinking about you …

I have to tell you, though, I really think it’s time to LET GO of the whole Telemann thing. I mean, so he got the job you wanted, and you had to keep teaching Latin to those “little brats,” big deal! I mean I think it all really worked out for the best … think of all the joy you’ve brought so many people.


You know, thanks for listening … sometimes I feel like I can go to peaceful places in my music that are hard to attain in reality.

By the way I noticed you had some unusual looking scores on your piano. Not anything I would write for sure! What gives?


JS, I’ve been meaning to talk to you about the possibility of an open relationship. I mean, the time I spend with you is SO AMAZING, but I sort of want a little space, I want to be free to see other composers …


Honestly I don’t know what to say …

… the other night, after the 5th Partita, you just had a beer and went straight to sleep! … after I slaved for weeks over a hot harpsichord writing it! Sometimes I can’t help thinking you just love me for my music. And how can you love that other stuff too?

… as they say in my native tongue, ich habe genug. Don’t be sad; we’ll always have the Allemande of the Fourth Partita.


[chat with anonymous third party]

J: Well I guess that didn’t work out ?.
X: Live and learn
J: I’m seeing this other composer now, Charles. I think he has some gender issues, though, kind of obsessed with masculinity, etc. etc.
X: Oh, you know what that means [wink]
J: Yah. Ok, gotta practice
X: ttyl

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  1. Anna
    Posted May 4, 2007 at 3:57 pm | Permalink

    To flirt with other/many composers is fine.
    If it’s gin you like, try Damson – lovely.

  2. Geigerin
    Posted May 4, 2007 at 6:36 pm | Permalink

    That was hilarious! Good gravy. I think I’d die laughing if someone saw that picture and didn’t know it was Bach. Sadly, that’s actually very possible because I know someone who was trying to buy a Bach CD at Barnes and Noble and the clerk replied, “He’s dead, isn’t he?”

  3. Anonymous
    Posted May 4, 2007 at 7:26 pm | Permalink

    J-Why do you neglect me? I can’t seem to get a place on your music stand or your blog (let alone any “benefits”). And it pains me to read constantly of your revolting dalliances with Bach (pedantic German schoolmaster), Beethoven (pompous self-important bore) and Ives (provincial American hack with “issues”) while I waste away pining for your attentions. Me: refined, balanced, elegant, suave, charming, mysterious, colorful, surprising, deep. Also despise Tchaikovsky Trio and unmarked ritards (or almost any other player-initiated expressive devices for that matter). Love food and wine (well, I’m French, duh), pseudo-intellection discussion (well, I’m French, duh), and walks on the beach (who knew?). Willing to try to love “House” and vacuum chips off of your floor in return for even a little quality Denk-time. (We also might consider a three-way with my friends Debussy and Ravel if you’re feeling adventurous.)
    -G. Faure (

  4. Anonymous
    Posted May 4, 2007 at 8:11 pm | Permalink

    You had me at ‘gin drinkers preferred’. If bawdy humor doesn’t bother you,let’s hook up. W.A.Mozart.

  5. rednepentha
    Posted May 5, 2007 at 1:34 am | Permalink

    that was hysterical. actually, some of my best dates have been near dead.

  6. Emily
    Posted May 7, 2007 at 10:31 pm | Permalink

    “Did anyone ever tell you you give amazing retrograde inversion? And I’m still dreaming about your descending chromatic bassline.” Oohhh baby. That’s some seriously scintillating pillow talk. Grrrr!

  7. ACN
    Posted May 7, 2007 at 11:54 pm | Permalink

    Definitely your funniest post thus far. That I’ve read. I’m devoted, but I haven’t delved into your temptingly seductive archives.

    I often have passionate, on-again/off-again love affairs with dead men. Glenn Gould, especially, though he’s a selfish lover.

  8. pyotr ilyich tchaikovsky
    Posted May 9, 2007 at 8:38 am | Permalink


    Well, Jeremy, they say all sorts of things about YOU at the Dead Composers Bar. None of which I will repeat here.

  9. Sarah Marie
    Posted May 9, 2007 at 10:00 am | Permalink

    Great post! I’m a fan. I guess you’ll have to decide how far to take things with Charles. (Ives, I presume?) Do let us know how things work out between the two of you, and how you manage to resolve your gender roles in the relationship.

  10. Anonymous
    Posted May 11, 2007 at 9:56 am | Permalink

    A book of such entries must draw big market of those of us who neen a bridge across the theoretical divide separating Lazarus (the poor musician) and Dives (the doomed capitalist).

  11. Clara
    Posted May 13, 2007 at 12:04 pm | Permalink

    *sniff* *sniff*, *sigh*

    When will you stop seeing men. My heart breaks everytime you turn thier pages. I ache to have you tinkle my ivories. You don’t know what music can do for you until you’ve loved a woman!!

    I will waste away under such neglect…

    I love you my darling

  12. RedGlow
    Posted May 13, 2007 at 6:40 pm | Permalink

    The only thing I can say is: genial. Loved every single line of it 🙂

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